It’s the first weekend of 2019 already and I am still in wonder where my 2018 had gone.
Have you done any reflection for the past year?
For me, I have filled out the front page of my new planner a few days ago after I have done some reflection of this current year. I went through the pages where I have written my big goals and took time to think what I have accomplished this year and what I have not.
As I review each goal, I felt a sense of disappointment because I have not accomplished most of them. Why? Because in all honesty I didn’t work hard enough to achieve them. I am only good at writing them down! Yes, that’s true… As I scan through the pages I realized that these goals I have written down on my planner made no sense at all. However, it did remind me of what have gone wrong and what am I lacking.
This reflection brought me to a realization that in order to achieve my goals I need not only to write it down but I have to constantly read them so I could be reminded of what needs to be done.
Instead of letting myself drown in disappointment and regret, I did take that as a CHALLENGE that will motivate me in working harder to make all these resolutions accomplished by the end of 2019. I have broken down my goals in to 5 categories which includes personal, social, spiritual, financial, relationships, and health.
My 2019 RESOLUTION
Personal ( Self care )
When I started writing my goals down I didn’t really pay attention to my personal goal. I am way more focused of getting our finances in order and other stuff. Simply because I am a wife and mom, and a childcare provider at the same time. I honestly have forgotten about myself most of the time because I am way too busy attending to the needs of my own family and the kids that I am taking care of.
This isn’t fun at all and I have reached the point of being burned out. This occurs when you tend to overwork yourself into a state of limited mental acuity, depleted emotions, and strength completely drained from your body.
Yeah, I have been there. Maybe you have experienced it too. That’s why my top priority for this year is all about self-care. After listening to the Do It Scared podcast by Ruth Soukup regarding self-care, I made it sure that this must be one of my priority. That in order to be able to perform my tasks and responsibilities as a mom and a child care provider I should take care of myself first.
I know most moms are selfless because they wanted to give the best to their family but I think it isn’t selfish to give /make time for ourselves too. We need to stay sane from our chaotic life. I fully know how it feels because I am a mom of two, who works 10 hours Monday to Friday. My routine is endless from waking up at 5 am, get to work, then come home and attend to my own family’s needs.
I am not complaining because this is my life but taking time for self-care isn’t being selfish. The guilt creeps up most of the time but I think it’s fair enough to spend sometime to our selves to avoid getting burned out.
When I still live in Vancouver, I love to go to social gathering like birthday parties,meeting friends over the weekend, or spending time with families after Sunday church service. I love meeting new people back then but when I moved to Calgary things have changed. Everyone became stranger to me and that people here are hard to approach. I became to aloof to people and I have confined myself at the four corners of my room.
From being a socially active and outgoing person, I became a loner and a home buddy. I don’t know but my perspective of meeting new people has changed. Home became my comfort zone and it felt very safe for me. Yet I miss being around people and just getting out and talking to them. Therefore, this year I will start making new friends again. I know that my friends in Vancouver will always be there and allowing myself meet new people won’t affect our friendships.
This new year, I will make new friends not only social media but in real life. I am giving myself a permission to be out there and start making new friend to people. I am also aiming to keep constant communication with the old friends I have and make some time meeting them.
As I made my reflection, I noticed that this are of my life needs improvement as much as the others areas in my life. I have taken off from going to church during winter of 2017 to fall of 2018. I got caught up with the too much going on in my life that time. In short, I let my excuses reign over me.
But I realized that there’s something missing in my life and I sought for it. I felt the hunger and thirst of my soul, longing for growth in faith. Therefore, I decided to go back to church every Sunday and began a morning devotion listening closely to what God always wanted to tell me. And it was great!
Yes, as I am writing this today, I said these words “never again.”
You would not believe this but I felt sad few days after Christmas.
NOPE. I DID NOT GO CRAZY OVER CHRISTMAS SHOPPING.
NOR I DID MAKE TOO MUCH FOOD FOR CHRISTMAS DINNER!
I was sad because I didn’t prepare enough for this season. In reality, I did have a budget for presents but it wasn’t enough. It made me feel sad that I wasn’t able to give my husband a present for his 40th birthday. It was those cold hard truth that made me feel angry for my negligence.
Yes, the reality is that truth hurts. And it gave me so much lesson to learn.
Twenty eighteen has been an interesting year. Although I have made some plans in getting our finances in order, things didn’t go as I wanted. Circumstances has gotten in the way and I wasn’t prepared enough for it. This created a chaos in our finances. Our summer vacation in the Philippines turned into a half nightmare after being stranded for 2 weeks in Manila.
I lost 2 week worth of paycheck and all of my savings disappeared to pay for my monthly bills. It’s because of that one mistake I’ve made that led me to this financial disaster that caused me to go back to swiping my credit card again.
I made mistakes. Lots of them! But hey, it’s normal and it teaches us to become better in handling our finances back to order. Looking back to where my finances had gone wrong allowed me to become more aware of where my money had gone and it allows me to improve my relationship with money.
When one of my daughters told me that it’s hard to reach me and my expectations, it hit me so hard. I didn’t know that while we’re living altogether now, it still seems that we’re miles apart. They felt that I am still in Canada and they’re still in the Philippines. And it goes with the same way too. We all felt the same way.
I began to ask myself with questions I haven’t asked before. Where I do begin? How?
Then I started to listen more and talk less. I became more sensitive with what is going on and how am I going to speak my words. And it worked.
Communication is the key.
Good relationships exist but they don’t happen overnight. It does require a lot of work. Therefore, I am going to make every single step to build a relationship that me and my family wanted.
Health and Fitness
Few years ago I began my journey with weight loss. Actually, it’s been always my desire to lose some weight and I have tried a lot. From slimming teas to work out programs etc. As many slimming programs I have tried so does my failures.
There were more failures than success!
Because staying consistent is harder than giving up!
However, when I started to think about it, becoming healthy isn’t all about losing those extra weights. It’s not even eating salad most of the time. Rather, healthy involves your mind, spirit and heart just as much as it involves your body.
Yes, health in overall aspect includes mind, body, heart and spirit.
Fitness on the other hand is the activity part. If you wanted to lose weight, what should you do? You may want to add more physical activities to your day like talking a walk, swimming or running. Fitness shouldn’t be complicated and expensive. It should be fun so that you can enjoy it. And it will be easier to stick to it especially if you have goals to achieve.
How bout you my friends? Have you done any reflection before this year ends? What are your resolutions for this 2019? Are you aiming for a better relationship? Becoming debt free?
I hope that you have written one with good intentions. Most of us were so fired up before the new year come yet, in reality not many of us stick to it. Sometimes, with just one mistake it could blow the whole resolution away and done – just like that! However, when you want to see things change the way it was before then try to stick with it.
Writing down your goal is good but making plan on how to achieve it is even better! Remember that it won’t be easy however always be reminded with you whys.